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James Frederick Dalby, Jr.

Obituary for James Frederick Dalby, Jr.

June 15, 1958 - September 8, 2020
Manassas, Virginia | Age 62


Rick was born in Newport News, Virginia to James F. and Nancy (Everett) Dalby. He was a 1976 graduate of Newburgh Free Academy in Newburgh, NY. Rick was theatrical and enjoyed acting. His children recall boisterous singalongs to Jesus Christ Superstar in their youth and his brother remembers his "spirited" performance as Herod in the high school's rendition of the musical. Rick had a beautiful singing voice and loved music-- Often being moved to tears by the sound of a lovely performance at church or gathering his family together to listen to something that they just had to know about!
In 1981, he graduated from the State University of New York at Albany, Summa Cum Laude; as a member of Phi Beta Kappa with a B.S. in Philosophy and Chemistry.
In a whirlwind of romance legendary in family history, he married Kate vanSchaick October 31, 1981. Rick and Kate took on life as an adventure and with entrepreneurial spirit founded their first company "Amanuensis" in 1983, a dictation company named from a word they picked up on a word-a-day calendar that didn't make it past its first anniversary. People just didn't understand that it wasn't a cult. Learning from their mistake, they went on to simplify the hook and founded Dalby Tutoring, Inc of McLean, VA which they ran until June 2014. Known for his great wit, intellect, and ability to teach, Rick attracted thousands of students over the years, helping them not only understand difficult academic subjects, but also how to deal better with the pains of adolescence. By 2002 Dalby had been ranked the best tutoring service in the metro DC area.
Rick and Kate had their daughter Logan in 1984, Bess in 1985 and Morgan in 1989. They raised their girls together with Pallas, Kate's son from a previous marriage. Rick always considered Pallas as his own son. The family moved to Catharpin in 1993 and began their farming adventure. Rick loved Catharpin: talking to his geese and burning things up. He was a life-long learner, and an inveterate scientist always trying out new hobbies and experiments, from car mechanics to improv to computer programming. One particular scheme saw him floating in a six-foot-tall tank of frigid water as an experimental weight loss program! He was known as our absent-minded professor, never going anywhere without a book or two or three to keep him company.
Sadly, Rick and Kate parted ways in 2014, and for Rick the years following were ones of frequent illness. Through his suffering he would remember his grandchildren in whom he delighted, and who were perhaps even more delighted by him. He always had a fun toy or prank ready for them. He understood children intuitively and they gravitated towards his fun and caring personality. The week before he died he was advising his grandson Max on what battery to install into a go-kart. Rick always thought the best of others, he was kind and magnanimous and hilariously fun and funny. He is greatly loved and missed.
He is predeceased by Mother Nancy Lee Everett (September 18, 2002); Uncle Bob Everett (September 8, 2019); Cousin Robert Everett (January 27, 2020). He leaves to mourn his loss:children Pallas Lee-vanSchaick and his wife Candice (Haymarket),and K. Logan Horne and husband Eric (Falls Church), Elizabeth (Bess) Dalby and companion Carlos Rodriguez (Leesburg), Morgan Dalby (Bluemont); grandchildren John, Ava, Samuel, Noah, Helena, James, John Max, Isabelle, Charlotte, Bruce, Sally, Thomas, Theodore, Gabriel, Daniel, Lavrans; father James F. Dalby, Sr.; brothers E. Fleet Dalby and wife Lisa (Winchester), Joseph Dalby and wife Dianne (Falls Church); nephew John Dalby; former wife Kate vanSchaick Taylor (Oakton).

Donations may be made to The Lamb Center, 3160 Campbell Drive, Fairfax, VA 22031.

Food and drink will be served at the visitation on Monday, September 21, 2020. Following the Mass on Tuesday, September 22, 2020, a reception will be held at Nokesville Park, 12560 Aden Road, Nokesville, VA 20181

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